Who would you BE, and how would you FEEL, if you were FULLY loving and accepting of yourself?
My passion is helping women to ‘reprogram’ themselves – revolutionise their internal chatter, change their self-concept and realise their ‘enough-ness’ from within. I am a champion of our inner spirit, helping you to create a stronger, more vibrant and curious relationship with yourself. I’ve seen from my own journey, and working with clients, that this is a crucial step in order to truly follow our own goals and desires.
The truth is – lack of self-belief and attaching to our stories – are the things that hold us back. We’ve all been programmed a certain way!
How we feel about ourselves is hugely affected by external influences – society, upbringing, culture, education, religion, traumas etc. We shape ourselves based on other peoples’ opinions, expectations and wishes – until we no longer do! The truth is though, we don’t even realise we are doing this until we delve within and start to get curious about why things may not be working out for us! Having this unconscious need to be approved of, and accepted by others, can mean we completely lose sight of who we really are.
Do you often feel caught in:
- Negative self-talk
- People pleasing (saying ‘yes’ even when you really don’t want to!)
- Trying to control everything
- Silencing your own needs in favour of others’
- Codependency (a ‘fixer’ who needs to be needed)
- Imposter syndrome
- Always being a ‘good girl’ or following rules
- Overworking or feel a need to over achieve
- Appearing like you’ve got your shit together (when truly you’re crumbling inside)
- Constantly complaining, criticising or judging
- Hiding your vulnerability
- Feel guilty if you stop or rest
All these lead to exhaustion and burn out (among many other things). It actually requires more energy to play these roles. We waste our vital life-force energy trying to edit, hide, alter, censor and overexert ourselves in order to please others. Symptoms can also appear in the body such as tension, tightness of muscles, aches, pains, brain fog, headaches and inflexibility. I ticked a lot of these boxes. The funny thing is though, this was all unconscious to me.
Now my mission is to help other women believe in themselves, and change their internal dialogue, because living any other way doesn’t work, period. Constantly looking outside of ourselves for approval, recognition, love, someone to believe in us etc, is building on shaky ground. It is unsustainable long term, hence we’re all frazzled, anxious, burnt out, and unable to follow through on our own dreams, goals and desires. Living in this way costs us our inner peace and causes us to be at war with ourselves internally.
I’m here to tell you there is another way! When you do your inner work and reconnect to who you really are (beyond the chatter and beliefs in your mind), you empower yourself and everything shifts. You regain the energy you expended on these things, and you redirect it towards your own goals and desires. As a result you feel more authentic, in alignment, more joyful, and you realise you are enough, no matter what anyone else thinks. With that comes a huge sense of inner relief and freedom!
Operating in this way is your innate way of being. It takes a bit of rewiring, patience and self-compassion, but it is possible to change course and shift to what I call INSIDE OUT living. You can create your life based on what ‘success’ looks like for you, and feel amazing about it (*note – your ‘success’ may look different to other people’s and that’s perfectly normal. We are not mass manufactured robots built to be the same, we’re more like trees in a forest, all unique and special in our own is-ness).
This is where I step in as a coach – to lead you down a path I’ve already trodden. I can’t do the work for you, but I can support you and help you cultivate this new mode of being. I see my all my clients as whole, creative and resourceful, completely capable of making the right decisions for themselves. It’s my role to help you remember this, and see where you have been giving away your power or silencing your own voice, and empowering yourself again. I help you move beyond your current conditioning and expand your perspective of what’s possible for you. You have one wild and precious life, what are you choosing to do with it?
I hold a compassionate, non-judgmental, confidential space for clients to come as they are.
Each session is 75 minutes and I incorporate a holistic approach for change focusing on our 4 bodies – physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. I use my own DART Process (which stands for Desire, Awareness, Reshape & Tools) to help you create lasting change. Sessions are done online via Zoom making it easier to fit your schedule. A minimum of 4 sessions are booked at a time in order to gain momentum.
“If an egg is broken by outside force, life ends. If broken by inside force, life begins. Great things always begin from inside.”