Do you need some direction in your life? Do you struggle to prioritise you? Do you know what you truly desire, and how to make it happen?
My passion is helping you to realise self-belief from within. I am a champion of our inner spirit, helping you to create a stronger, more vibrant and curious relationship with yourself. I’ve seen from working with clients (and on my own journey!) that this is a crucial step in order to truly follow our own goals and desires.
The truth is – lack of self-belief and attaching to our stories – are the things that hold us back.
How we feel about ourselves is hugely affected by external influences – society, upbringing, culture, education, religion, traumas etc. We shape ourselves based on other peoples’ opinions, expectations and wishes – until we no longer do! The truth is though, we don’t even realise we are doing this until we delve within and start to get curious about why things may not be working out for us! Having this unconscious need to be approved of, and accepted by others, can mean we completely lose sight of who we really are.
Do you often feel caught in:
- Negative self-talk
- People pleasing (saying ‘yes’ even when you really don’t want to!)
- Trying to control everything
- Silencing your own needs in favour of others’
- Codependency (a ‘fixer’ who needs to be needed)
- Imposter syndrome
- Always being a ‘good girl’ or following rules
- Overworking or feel a need to over achieve
- Appearing like you’ve got your shit together (when truly you’re crumbling inside)
- Constantly complaining, criticising or judging
- Hiding your vulnerability
- Feel guilty if you stop or rest
All these lead to exhaustion and burn out (among many other things). It actually requires more energy to play these roles. We waste our vital life-force energy trying to edit, hide, alter and censor ourselves in order to please others. Symptoms can also appear in the body such as tension, tightness of muscles, aches, pains, brain fog, headaches and inflexibility. I ticked a lot of these boxes. The funny thing is though, this was all unconscious to me. I never realised at the time, but my constant need for ‘doing’ was a cry for approval and validation; due to the lack of belief in myself and not feeling good enough!
Now my mission is to help other women believe in themselves because living any other way doesn’t work, period. External approval is built on shaky ground. It is fleeting and unsustainable long term, hence we’re all frazzled, anxious, burnt out, and unable to follow through on our own dreams, goals and desires. Living in this way costs us our inner peace and causes us to be at war with ourselves internally.
I’m here to tell you there is another way! When you have your own back, and work to your own self-approval from within, you empower yourself and everything shifts. You regain the energy you expended on these things, and you redirect it towards your own goals and desires. As a result you feel more authentic, in alignment, more joyful, and you realise you are enough, no matter what anyone else thinks! There’s an internal ease that comes with self-belief that keeps you focused on our own lane, and not waste time trying to be in someone else’s lane (in fact you happily cheer them on!).
Operating in this way is your innate way of being. It takes a bit of rewiring, patience and self-compassion, but it is possible to change course and shift to what I call INSIDE OUT living. When you do this, you can redefine what ‘success’ looks like for you in your life (*hint this may look slightly different to other people in your life and that’s perfectly normal. We are not mass manufactured robots built to be the same, we’re more like trees in a forest, all unique and special in our own is-ness).
This is where I step in as a coach – to lead you down a path I’ve already trodden. I can’t do the work for you, but I can support you and help you cultivate this new mode of being. I see my all my clients as whole, creative and resourceful, completely capable of making the right decisions for themselves. It’s my role to help you remember this, and see where you have been giving away your power or silencing your own voice, and empowering yourself again. I help you move beyond your current conditioning and expand your perspective of what’s possible for you. You have one wild and precious life, what are you choosing to do with it?
I hold a compassionate, non-judgmental, confidential space for clients to come as they are.
Each session is 75 minutes and I incorporate a holistic approach for change focusing on our 4 bodies – physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. I use my own DART Process (which stands for Desire, Awareness, Reshape & Tools) to help you create lasting change. Sessions are done online via Zoom making it easier to fit your schedule. I recommend a minimum of 4 sessions in order to gain momentum.
“If an egg is broken by outside force, life ends. If broken by inside force, life begins. Great things always begin from inside.”